Supa Tired

“Feeling okay, Babe?” I hear my husband ask. I stop and consider how I should answer this question. I don’t want to sound like I’m nagging, so I lie and answer, “Feeling great!” That was far from the truth; I was tired-supa tired.

Often times we see posts blasted about self-care and how everyone needs it, but honestly, I don’t think self-care is enough- not for a mama, at least. An hour massage won’t steer away mommy worries, an uninterrupted bubble bath won’t ease our mind of the overflowing laundry, and a girls’ night out surely won’t fully recharge our batteries. The truth of the matter is that we’ll always probably feel this way. Why? Because society has created this culture-induced stigma that mamas should do it all. Hence, we are supa tired. 

We are supa tired of reading about how we are a bad mom if we don’t buy all-natural products for our kids and our household. 

We are supa tired of browsing social media and being left with the feeling that we aren’t doing enough. 

We are supa tired because we had to return to work  12 weeks after having a baby. And to be honest, hell, most of us didn’t even get that.

We are supa tired of others’ mom-shaming comments about how “breast is best” when they see us giving our baby formula. I just really want to scream, “Bih, it doesn’t even matter. The baby is eating, right?!”

We are supa tired because every time we walk past a mirror, we are reminded of the baby weight we have yet to lose.  Mamas want to look like IG models, too!

We are supa tired because we have learned to give to everyone else and yet leave nothing for ourselves. 

We are supa tired of family members constantly chiming in and giving advice on how to raise OUR kids. This ain’t 1978, people. Times have changed.

We are supa tired because we are thinking about the ever-growing to-do list. Can somebody say, “Preach Sista Smith?!”

We are supa tired because we’ve read the studies about how too much screen time can harm our children, but dammit, how else are we going to prepare a decent dinner? 

We are supa tired of trying to figure out how to be a mom and a sexy wife at the same damn time.  Has anyone figured that out yet?

The list goes on, but mamas, I hope that you understand that you’re not doing anything wrong. Mom life is quite frankly just tough. The important thing that you should realize is that it’s ok to ask for help. Be honest about how you feel. Don’t continue to buy into the idea that you have to be the “perfect'” wife and mother. Keep your head high, and let your guard down a little, Mama. You’re worth your sanity.